“People do not have to become something they are not. They need to learn only who and what they really are.” Eknath Easwaran
- As your Life Coach, I am committed to you – your dreams, your healing, your path that is calling you to become on the outside the greatness that is already you on the inside.
- As your Life Coach, I begin our relationship with the assumption that you are a good person, with a good heart, and with right intention. You are someone who only
wants to love and be loved. Most importantly, I want you to know that I believe that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are fine just the way you are.
- As your Life Coach, I will listen to you. I will listen – slowly and carefully to you. I will listen for your magnificence. And I will believe you. My intention is to coach to the soul, not to the symptoms and certainly not to the “diagnosis.”
- As your Life Coach, I don’t want you to reflect on our session later and say, “Wow, my Life Coach is brilliant!” I want you to reflect on our session later and say, “Wow, I am brilliant!”
- As your Life Coach, I will spend time every day thinking about you. I will hold you in my consciousness with loving intention, inviting insight as to how my gifts may be used for your highest good.
- As your Life Coach, my goal for you is threefold: to be awake, to be free, and to be alive.
"Working with Kris Roush has been one of the most positive experiences of my life. Because she is so compassionate and empathic, working with her is immediately deep and meaningful. I especially appreciate Kris' range of skills and styles, her knowledge and wisdom, and her caring and supportive personality." Oz
Kris’ Philosophy of Life Coaching
As I reflect on what I believe today about why we are the way we are, I am reminded of
a paper that I wrote in graduate school. All graduate students in Counseling Psychology take a class called Theories of Counseling. It covers all the major recognized theoretical orientations toward psychotherapy. The standard assignment that is due at the end of
this course is to write one’s own theory of counseling. Twenty-five years later, I don’t think my paper would be much different; it would just be longer. I’ve learned that we are much more than our childhood traumas, unconscious conflicts, dysfunctional parenting influences, genetic make-up, behavioral reinforcement, or cognitive distortions.
Today, I have respect for all of these influences, and I choose to approach my work with clients from a more positive framework, and less from what is called the Medical Model. Therapists refer to the patient’s “presenting problem” which leads to a “diagnosis” and then the “treatment plan” is formulated. All of this is fine and good for the “patient” who truly needs psychotherapy. I did it for years and will always be grateful for the honor and privilege it was to be someone’s therapist – to help people with deep family-of-origin issues in order to arrive at a more functional level of living.
Now, in my own evolving, I find that what seems to be “right” for me, is to work with people who are already at this functional level and who want to move even further along their path to joy, freedom, abundance and love. I can recognize people who need psychotherapy and will gladly refer them to colleagues for this essential foundational work. And, I will welcome them back with open arms if they choose to work with me at the next level.
I also recognized that I was spending a lot of time in therapy sessions essentially explaining and teaching clients about family systems theory, defense mechanisms, learned patterns, the importance of spirituality, the role and power of the unconscious, codependency, etc… These monologues often came to a close with a resounding
motivational pep talk of sorts. I remember one time finishing a session with a client at the door with the joyous exhortation, “Now, go out there and make me proud!” We laughed ourselves silly. So, I took this as a message from my Higher Self and decided to bring my professional identity and focus in alignment with what my behavior and passionate feelings were telling me.
So now I am a Life Coach. I love doing workshop presentations, motivational speaking, teaching Psychology at the community college, and working one-on-one with clients, incorporating the mysteries of Energy Psychology. As an Energy Practitioner, I have to confess, the rapid results of this approach still astound me. When I was first learning EFT, I practiced on whoever was willing to give it a try. I’m not kidding (see, I’m still amazed!), we got practically instant relief for knee pain, sinus headache, hives, test anxiety, back pain, stomach upset, phobias, and even traumatic war memories. And remember, I’m an academic type with a Ph.D. background, which means I was taught to worship at the altar of the scientific method and judge as folly any “unproven” methodology. Well, I am wise enough now to know “results is results.” Thank goodness the first Stone Age person who discovered fire didn’t abandon the practice just because the exact cause, theory, mechanism, and outcome couldn’t be controlled or quantified.
If you think we might be a good match to work together, please let me know by contacting me through e-mail. My link is on the front page. I will be happy to chat on the phone for a free 15 minute “getting to know you” connection. At that time we can discuss which option below might be best for you and make an appointment at that time.
remarkable clinical results, they must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of them. Further, Dr. Roush is not a licensed health practitioner and offers EFT and other Energy Psychology methodologies as a Life Coach."